“It’s not ‘GreatCupid’ or even’ GoodCupid.’ It’s OkCupid.”
Dating can be a really fun experience. It can also be stressful and soul-crushing. Believe us, we’ve been there. It can also be an incredibly jarring experience in the modern world, especially for men who grew up being taught about holding doors open, laying jackets on muddy drainpipes and turning up with a bouquet of roses in hand. Fret not, we here at What We Reading have scoured the world’s best dating books for men to help you ditch the apps and make it work with ‘the one’!
Flirtology – Jean Smith
Social and cultural anthropologist Jean Smith is renowned for her work in confidence building and understanding the patterns of human behaviour, language and intimacy. Her 2018 relationship book Flirtology is aimed at both men and women who are looking to build healthy long-term relationships.
A fun and quirky title with plenty of scientific backing, Smith explores how to feel empowered in your own self, and how that leads to more confidence in flirting and interactions, as well as attracting the right kind of partner.
The Dating Playbook For Men – Andrew Ferebee
The Dating Playbook For Men: A Proven 7 Step System To Go From Single To The Woman Of Your Dreams is the essential guide on how to understand and make yourself irresistible to women in just 90 days from Andrew Ferebee.
In this must-read dating book for men, Ferebee gives precise explanations on where most men go wrong in their pursuit of love, whilst offering techniques and strategies designed to give readers a packed calendar of dates and beautiful suitors. Taking his trademark ‘no bs’ approach to the literary world, The Dating Playbook Men is not to be missed.
How To Talk To Women – Ray Asher
Ray Asher taps into every man’s worst nightmare in one of the best dating books for men, How To Talk To Women. In the second entry in a trilogy of releases, Asher explains why men freeze up when talking to someone they are interested in, and how they can flip this scenario to effortlessly master the art of conversation.
Asher utilises classic female psychology in the assessment of modern dating, presenting easy-to-follow solutions for men to gain a better insight into what makes someone attractive. From avoiding mansplaining to the go-to conversation topics that every woman finds appealing, it’s all on offer in this 2020 book.
Models: Attract Women Through Honesty – Mark Manson
Author Mark Manson takes readers through why the traditional approach of viewing the art of seduction as a manly ‘logic-based’ endeavour is flawed and presents a new model based around emotion in his groundbreaking dating book, Models: Attract Women Through Honesty.
Still one of the most eye-opening dating books for men on the market, Manson gets to the root of what causes uncertainty in men, and why it is unattractive to women and walks readers through several great strategies they can employ to have greater success in the long run.
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Swipe Left: How To Succeed At Modern Dating – Lucy Baker
Modern dating has become dominated by swipe-heavy applications such as Tinder, Bumble and Grindr. What these apps have in convenience, they lose in integrity, with the whole dating app experience feeling fake and easily able to overwhelm any singletons looking to meet the one.
Lucy Baker takes on the headaches and most commonly-faced issues with online dating apps in her 2019 dating book, Swipe Left: How To Succeed At Modern Dating. In it, Baker runs through the biggest ‘dos’ and ‘don’ts’ online, how to pull a relationship into the real world with a good first date, and how to get over the inevitable ghosting that happens with these apps.
The Man’s Guide To Women – John Gottman And Julie Schwartz Gottman
American psychologist John Gottman has dedicated four decades to divorce predictions and marital stability. In his 2016 dating book for men, The Man’s Guide to Women, he teams up with his wife Julie Schwartz Gottman, PhD, to demonstrate exactly how men make or break a relationship.
Based on their 40 years of studies and research, the book explores how to attract, satisfy and succeed with women. Along with insights from Douglas Abrams and Rachel Carlton Abrams, MD, it is the perfect resource for men looking for the answers to everything from how to approach women, all the way to know when a long-term relationship is going wrong.
The Message Game – Ice White
Navigating the new world of dating apps like Tinder, Bumble or Hinge can be a challenge for some men. Figuring out how to hold an interesting virtual conversation and score a date with a woman who seems like a good match can feel like tough hurdles to overcome. But fear not, because dating coach Ice White is here with The Message Game!
This comprehensive dating book is jam-packed with screenshots and insightful analysis. From understanding why she isn’t replying to dispelling misconceptions that you’re only after one thing, this structured guide is the ultimate handbook for securing more dates and increasing your chances of finding that special someone.
Wired For Dating – Stan Tatkin
If you’re feeling apprehensive about online dating, fear not! In his book Wired For Dating, couples therapist Stan Tatkin addresses the daunting task of finding an authentic connection in the digital age. Drawing on his fifteen years of experience, Tatkin shares simple and proven-effective techniques based on neuroscience and attachment theory.
With these exercises, readers can put theory into practice and begin to enjoy the modern dating scene. Whether you’re a man looking for the perfect partner or just seeking to improve your dating game, Tatkin’s strategies will help you navigate the process with greater ease and confidence.
The Tactical Guide To Women – Shawn T. Smith
Looking for love can sometimes feel like a gamble, but author Shawn T Smith is here to help men navigate the dating world with his book, The Tactical Guide To Women. Smith takes a pragmatic approach to the game of dating, explaining how choosing the wrong partner can lead to personal and financial disasters. Drawing on his clinical experiences and thorough research, Smith offers a wealth of information on risk management in the dating scene.
This book is the ultimate resource for men seeking to identify potential matches with high character and low drama, as well as spot the early warning signs of an emotionally unstable relationship. From red flags to missed cues, Smith’s guide has got you covered.
Mate: Become The Man Women Want – Tucker Max And Geoffrey Miller
Tucker Max and Geoffrey Miller have invested over twenty years of research into understanding what women want from men, why they want it and how men can become the perfect match for them.
In this quirky dating book for guys, Mate explains how the best thing men can do for gaining a women’s attraction is by becoming the best version of themselves. The book is a no-nonsense approach to dating but is also delivered in an honest and straightforward manner, leaning on evidence and success stories from the pair’s real-life studies to showcase exactly how readers can become Mr Right to any girl.
Part-time reader, part-time rambler, and full-time Horror enthusiast, James has been writing for What We Reading since 2022. His earliest reading memories involved Historical Fiction, Fantasy and Horror tales, which he has continued to take with him to this day. James’ favourite books include The Last (Hanna Jameson), The Troop (Nick Cutter) and Chasing The Boogeyman (Richard Chizmar).
